The Spiritual Consequences of Irresponsible Sexual Behavior

“See, understand something my brothers and my
sisters, men are, they are projectors and women are
receptive. They – men, they release and women,
they get an impartation. You know why there is
more pain for women that are single than it is for
men? Men, after they project themselves and they
get a release, what they’ve lost are strength. So,
every time they sleep with a woman and that
woman is not their wife, they’re losing strength. But
see, every time a man sleeps with us, we’re getting
a deposit. Now let me help you with something. If
in fact, that the Scripture lets us know, that marriage
is not going to the courthouse and standing in front
of the altar, [then] our mates are chosen in the
spirit realm. And I don’t know about ya’ll, but when
I got my divorce, I went to court and the judge said
to me, he said, “Was this marriage consummated?”
And, you know, me being slow and from the ghetto,
I leaned over to my lawyer, I said, “That’s a big
word. What does that mean?” He said, “It means
‘Did you have sex with the man’?” And I said, “Well
yes, I did.” He said, “Then, it was consummated.”
Which means, it doesn’t matter [whether] you got a
piece of paper? Once you have had sex with a man,
then what happens according to the realm of the
spirit, the spirit of that man steps in your body…and
now you are attached.”
Yes, Ladies, I’m saying that every time we have sex
with a man, we take in his spirit. Every time. Yep,
go ahead and just count the number of sexual
partners you have had. Yep, all themnuccus are in
your spirit. Competing.War-ring.Trying to find their
place…in a shared space. And when you take in a
man’s spirit, it begins to make you connected to
him. You made an FWB arrangement with a football
player? You don’t even care for football. Now after
having sex, you find yourself all up on him wanting
to watch football. Before, you didn’t even think he
was cute. You had sex with the lights off and
shades pulled! But now? Now you can’t get him off
your mind. Before, you didn’t have anything in
common, but now? Ya’ll are starting to look alike,
talk alike, smell alike… Spiritual Attachment.
Yes, Men, I’m saying that every time you have sex
with a woman, you’re giving her your spirit. You’re
losing a piece of yourself to her, losing a piece of
your strength to her. And since she’s not your wife,
(i.e. no real and absolute investment in this
woman) she is completely unable to invest back
into you to give you that piece of yourself back.
Don’t believe me? Ever met a man whore? Ever
picked up his energy and think, “Sheesh! What’s
wrong with that guy?” Well, I’ll tell you. He’s
depleted. It’s an energy of depletion. A spirit of not
being made whole. He has given himself away to
too many women without any way of being made
whole again. Unfortunately, he keeps sleeping
around in an effort to feel whole, not realizing he’s
making matters worse…. Spiritual Depletion.
Your spirit is the very essence and core of your
being. It is the way you are connected to God and
are sensitive to the spirit realm. Because of this, it
is imperative that you keep your spirit clean, whole,
free of negativity and evil, and definitely free of any
bondage. But when we enter into FWB
arrangements, we end up making spiritual
connections with people (1) we never wanted a
connection with in the first place and (2) our spirit
is being held captive/inhabited by that other
person’s spirit.
So, while the FWB arrangement sounds great in
theory, I’m telling you that no matter what you say
or think, no matter how you try to frame it, FWB
arrangements have serious consequences because
it makes the participants “one in the spirit”,
automatically intertwined with the spirit of another.
You may not see it or feel it right away, but like I
said – it happens in the spirit realm first.
The most unfortunate part about it is that once the
spiritual attachment takes place, you can’t just say
“Hey, I don’t wanna be intertwined with this person
anymore” and then it is undone. No, no, no. If it
were that easy, then divorce court would
immediately sever all bonds between two previously
married persons. No, no, my friends – in order to
break the spiritual bond – you have to purge that
person out of your spirit. A spiritual cleansing.
And…it can take weeks, months, or years.
Now, I can hear some of ya’ll saying: “now, I’ll be
alright.” Really? Until you are delivered from the
spiritual consequences, you will never be satisfied
in a relationship. Ladies, you can try to move on to
a new man, but you’ll never be satisfied. Why?
Because the new man’s spirit is competing with the
spirit of the other men still in there. In your mind
and spirit, you will be trying to make him like all
the other men in there. That’s why you’re telling the
new man: hold me like this, spank me like this, lift
me like this, kiss it like this….you’re trying to make
the new man do what Johnny did best, what Tyrone
did best, what Brian did best, and what Ray Ray did
best. Another example: have you ever been out
somewhere and saw an old fling and something
jumps inside your stomach? Perhaps you get a
flashback? Yep, that’s cuz you may have said it was
over, but he’s still inside of your spirit and that
spirit sensed he was around. YOU HAVE TO PURGE
HIM OUT OF THERE!
Men, this goes for you, too. You have to purge
yourself of the women you’ve slept with, with the
goal of being made whole, or restored. You can’t be
all that you can be for “The One” if you’re still
weakened by the deposits of pieces of your spirit in
Tanisha, Ericka, Joy, and Lisa. Not to mention, you
have to deal with the consequences of those
women still being attached to you…So men,
RECLAIM YOUR SPIRIT and BEGIN THE PROCESS
OF RESTORATION!
Now, I practice what I preach. I have been celibate
for one year and one month (trust me; I’m not
bragging, okay?) It’s not to satisfy a religious rule,
per se. It is because I am trying to prepare my
spirit for “The One”. So many of us women want to
be married/re-married, but as Bynum states in her
message, we can’t get married because with all
those men in our spirit, we can’t truly be labeled as
“single.” I spend time before God and walking and
talking with Him so that He may deliver me from
the attachment to every man I have slept with,
whether I slept with him one time, or one-hundred
times. I’m proud to say I’m almost done. I’ve only
got two more men to go. And whenever I’m
tempted to do another FWB arrangement, I simply
can’t justify it being worth the time of stalking,
feeling confused, getting pissed off, and wanting to
be violent purging.
-Juanita Bynum